How to Create & Activate Your Alter Ego For Unstoppable Confidence

We explore how to create and activate your alter ego - the version of you who walks into any room with confidence, makes bold moves without hesitation, and attracts success effortlessly. This practice isn't about creating a fake persona, but rather unlocking the most powerful version of yourself that already exists.

• Your alter ego is not a fake character but the fully activated version of you
• People you're drawn to reveal parts of yourself waiting to be activated
• Famous examples include Beyoncé's Sasha Fierce and Kobe Bryant's Black Mamba
• Creating your alter ego involves identifying how they walk, talk, dress and handle situations
• Bringing your alter ego online helps overcome overthinking and self-doubt
• Practice stepping into your alter ego before important meetings, videos, or challenging social situations
• True confidence comes from deciding who you are rather than waiting until you feel ready

If you're ready to step into your highest self and move with confidence, reach out about private coaching or the Magnetic Leader Accelerator. Send me a DM on Instagram or LinkedIn or email at info@lisajeffs.com to share the name of your alter ego!

Chapters

• 0:00 Introducing Your Hidden Confident Self
• 5:01 Understanding Alter Egos: Beyoncé and Kobe
• 7:22 Lady J: Lisa's Personal Alter Ego Experience
• 9:08 Creating Your Own Alter Ego
• 13:41 Activating Your Alter Ego In Real Life
• 18:12 Weekly Practice and Final Thoughts

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:01

What if I told you the most confident, powerful, magnetic version of you already exists. You just have to unlock them. This episode is for you if you've ever felt held back by self-doubt, overthinking or the fear of being too much. Today, we're diving into how to create and activate your alter ego, the version of you who walks into any room like they own it. The version of you who makes bold moves and moves without hesitation to attract success and what you desire effortlessly. This is going to be one you don't want to miss. Stay tuned.

Speaker 2: 1:03

Tap into your power of an entrepreneur. Level up, step it up because I believe, find your purpose. Time to be a Magnetic Leader.

Speaker 1: 1:36

Welcome to the show leaders. This is the Magnetic Leader Podcast. I am Lisa Jeff, your host and your coach and intuitive. I've been helping leaders, entrepreneurs and visionaries step into unshakable confidence, clarity, purpose and success for over 11 years, and I'm excited to talk to you about a practice that is not only fun but it is highly, highly effective, and this is the practice of creating and embodying your alter ego. If you've been a one-on-one client with me, you've likely gone through this process.

Speaker 1: 2:30

Your alter ego isn't something that is fake. This is one thing I want people to really understand. It's not a fake character that we are creating. It's the fully activated version of you that already exists. A lot of people think that this version of them that they keep kind of tuning into seeing, of tuning into seeing you know, if you see someone on stage or there's an actor or a musician that you're drawn to, or someone in business, an entrepreneur or whoever it is, you're drawn to that person for a reason. This is not random. You are seeing within them a part of you that is there to be activated, and when we create your alter ego, this is you coming online. So, if you can think about people like Beyonce she created Sasha Fierce to own the stage. Is Sasha Fierce a fake character? No, of course not. Sasha Fierce is a part of Beyonce.

Speaker 1: 4:03

We are multi-dimensional. We are not flat people. Now, society has made it seem like we are in a box, right. We give ourselves labels like we are a mom or we are a dad, we are an entrepreneur, we are a coach, we're a designer, etc. Etc. And we kind of start performing in this little box. We're so much more than that and our alter ego allows us and gives ourselves permission to step into that energy that we've been holding back. Another person who used alter ego was Kobe Bryant Black Mamba. Right, these alter egos aren't pretend. They are an activation of their highest selves, our highest selves. Our alter ego is the version of you who is bold, clear, unstoppable. They already exist inside of you. My alter ego is called Lady J. I have Lady J tattooed on my arm. When I look at Lady J, it is a reminder of who I am, beyond the stories of limitation, beyond stories of one of my challenges that I had to move through over the years Because I am highly sensitive, which means I pick up so much information from the world.

Speaker 1: 5:53

I pick up so much information from people, and this is one of the the benefit of being highly sensitive is it creates my work. It allows me to go so deep within people. Because I am picking up so much information, I can see exactly what that person needs. I can understand within a few minutes what is going on with a person. Obviously, this is hugely beneficial for my coaching career because it allows us to go so much more in depth with our work.

Speaker 1: 6:30

But also in my personal life, it can be a challenge because I am picking up so much information. Sometimes it can hinder me from saying certain things or doing something that I actually want to do, because I am so concerned how this would affect someone. And part of my healing journey was releasing the need or that desire to try to control a situation, because it's none of my business how a person takes everything, as long as I'm being respectful and operating from the heart. And Lady J, my alter ego helped me to embody that confidence and courage and power. So our alter ego again is a permission, step to step into the energy that you've been holding back. Right, it allows us, it gives us a name. Right, it gives us something to anchor this version of ourself in. So we want to have fun with this, because our alter ego is not something that should be boring or a snore fest.

Speaker 1: 7:48

I want you to start to think about the people that you are drawn to. Who are you drawn to? When you see them, you're like, wow, I love the way that person dresses, I love the way that person commands a room. I love whatever it is about them. It can be anything. It doesn't have to be something big and bold and in front of everyone, like Sasha Fierce or it may be. You admire someone who is very introspective, who is very well-spoken. It can be anything. Again, this is activating the parts of you that you are a little bit insecure about bringing online or you're a little bit holding back or there's a little fear in those areas. So once you can kind of feel in and say you know what I really like, this For me, I love people like Freddie Mercury or Elvis Presley. I am attracted to huge, big, bold stage presence.

Speaker 1: 8:59

So once you find that person, I want you to kind of tune in and get clear. How do they walk into a room? Right? This is the part where we're just kind of mapping out your alter ego, right? We want to get clear. Who are they right For? Beyonce working with Sasha Fierce? I'm sure she had to get clear. Well, how is Sasha Fierce walking on stage? You know, how does she command that stage? How would she handle challenges, like if someone jumped on stage and tried to? You know, come and grab her right? There is different ways people would handle that. If you look at Michael Jackson, when Michael Jackson used to have people jump on stage, he handled it in a certain way. He was very fan-focused, whereas someone like I can't remember his name, but he has a completely different stage presence and he would basically like push people off the stage, where Michael Jackson would embrace them. And again, we're not saying one is better than the other. This is just about getting clear.

Speaker 1: 10:19

Who is that alter ego? How do they dress? A lot of times I speak to people and they have this version of them that they can see, but it seems so far off from them that they're seeing it as like another person or something so separate from them. And if it's in your mind's eye, if it's something you can visualize and you feel connected to this, this is not random, this is a part of you that wants to be explored. So how does that person dress, allowing yourself to feel into it? What do they do in conversations? How are they? How is their presence? Are they more subdued? Are they more big and bold? What does that look like? What does that sound like? Do they have a signature? Look, what is that?

Speaker 1: 11:25

I want you to kind of play with this and get clear. What is that alter ego that feels so magnetic to you. I map it out, literally, grab a piece of paper and start writing. Go on to Pinterest. What are you drawn to? Go through some kind of catalog where you can see different artists. Who are the artists that you're drawn to? How is their presence? Are they soft and warm and welcoming? Are they challenging and fierce and fiery? This is again the part of you that wants to come online. Whatever you are drawn to, there are elements that we want to put into your alter ego. So, once we have some kind of mapped out, whether you're writing it, using significant magnetizing words to describe them, whether this is a visual Pinterest board To be honest, it would be helpful if it's a multitude of different things so you can really, really get clear what this is I want you to start to play with it in your own life, right, this is part of you activating that alter ego, right?

Speaker 1: 12:54

It's you playing in that energy, not hoping and kind of seeing it as, oh, I would love to be that person. I would love to be that person, but I don't think it's ever gonna happen. No, this has to be that person, but I don't think it's ever going to happen. No, this has to be you not thinking about it or overthinking about it or getting into your head. But this is about you starting to move like that alter ego. Right, your alter ego doesn't wait until they are ready. They just show up For me.

Speaker 1: 13:28

I use my alter ego anytime I need that boost of confidence, anytime I need to release any kind of small behavior or when I'm shrinking. That's a perfect time to bring your alter ego online. If you're someone who does not like networking and cringes at the thought of going to a conference and having to shake hands with 20, 30 people and introduce yourself and make conversation and you're just cringing time to tap into your alter ego, give them a name. Again. My alter ego's name is Lady J. If I need Lady J to come on board, I instantly can snap into that. Lady J walks into a room with her shoulders back, with a natural flow, she commands the room. Her presence alone speaks volumes. Lady J is charismatic. She introduces herself, she asks questions about other people, she's interested in other people, she puts herself out there Now and again.

Speaker 1: 14:54

This is part of me, lisa Jeffs. I do this as well, but sometimes I can get into my head and I can flip into a more awkward state and I can flip into a more awkward state and then I just want to hide out in a corner of a convention eating my snacks and drinking my coffee and I can be very content in that corner. But if I came to that event with the intention of making connections and leaving knowing that I put my best bold foot forward, then I'm going to bring Lady J online and I'm going to let her take the stage. And until you start doing this, it may make no sense to you. You're like what do you mean? You just flip into this Lady J and she just takes the stage. What are you even talking about, lisa Jeffs? That's why I need you to start doing it. I need you to practice this.

Speaker 1: 15:57

The first step is getting clear who this alter ego is and don't feel like you need to get something clear right, then and there. This is a practice. You may find that your first version doesn't truly suit you. You may need to do this many times to get to your core version. That's okay. But then I need you to practice, right. We're going to be activating the alter ego, right. You are no longer you trying to figure things out. You're the magnetic version of you, who moves with certainty, who moves with confidence, who moves like they command spaces in whatever shape or fashion. That is right. This is you stepping into your alter ego.

Speaker 1: 16:50

So, for the next week, before any big moment, I want you to step into your alter ego. Let them lead, let them shine and watch how things shift. If you have an important meeting, I want you to go in as your alter ego. If you're someone who does videos online YouTube, social media some of my clients have online presence I want you to record a video in that energy of your alter ego. I want you to show up to family outings that you normally don't feel very great in. Show up as your alter ego. I want you to practice this for a week, right?

Speaker 1: 17:45

True confidence isn't about waiting until you're ready. It's about deciding who you are and stepping into that version of you. Now your alter ego is a version of you who already knows that they belong, that they can command a room, that they are magnetizing. Let them take the lead this week. Have fun with this. This can get really, really, really fun when you get out of your head, get into your heart space, let go of all the insecurities and map out that confident, magnetizing ultra-ego in whatever that is for you.

Speaker 1: 18:38

Now, if you're ready to step into your highest self and move with confidence and you want more of this kind of these processes, you want to go deeper into this. Reach out, let's talk, let's have a conversation about private coaching or my magnetic leader accelerator. All right, leaders, I'm going to wrap it up. Thank you for joining me it up. Thank you for joining me. Send me a DM on Instagram or LinkedIn or send me an email at info at lisajeffscom and tell me what is the name of your alter ego. Who are you going to show up as this week? Let's keep the conversation happening. I love you, I appreciate you and, as always, let's stay connected.

Speaker 2: 19:42

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